I’m over the moon to announce my marriage on June 30th! 

After meeting 8 years ago, him by my side through two mastectomies, numerous walks on the beach from here to Oahu, Kauai and the South Carolina coast, and huddled together during the covid lockdown, we decided to take the leap and formalize our commitment to one another.

In many ways we are an unlikely pair: opposite sides politically, him a southern gentleman, me a California free-spirited poet. We meet in our business minded outlook, personal values and peaceful, steady compatibility.

With a history of exciting, high drama, high maintenance relationships, how did I come to be so content with a quiet steadiness that my previous self would have found boring?

Part of it is age, maturity and an exhaustion from the toll of all of that. It is much more, though.

Conscious leadership starts with conscious living, which is the commitment to wake up and be present to all of life, to face the pain of the past and fear of the future.

Marriage is putting that commitment in practice like no other relationship can. It is a legal, binding contract promising to be together for better or worse.

Of course it can be broken—I’ve been through that, and it is costly on many levels. This feels very different.

Experiencing broken commitments, wariness about doing it again, working through the resistance over time allowed a natural progression to arrive at the realization that marriage is the right path and this is the right person. 

Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband? Yes, I do!

Once the words were spoken and the deed was done, there was a palpable, glowing happiness emanating from us both. It has remained, and I wonder why we waited so long.

All in perfect time…

“When we connect with the love in our heart, we find it is an endless source.The more we give love, the more it grows inside us.”  

From my book, Emergence A Path to Presence

If you put in the effort to know and love yourself, all of your relationships will change and flourish, personally and professionally.